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Yes, I am. Can you please post a specific question for me to answer?
i will wait for you it is ok
How are you?
i finished university
i apply for visa
i get it#
i had apointment with emdr therpiest
she told me
I'm so glad to hear that!
and she did me a test
and i had 38% of dissioation
and i hv a q
i need to ask
since i start
re experincing truama
more and more
and things get more worse
because the trauama happend infront my house
so i feel my house
so i didnt feel good in my countrie
38% dissociation is significant, but not super high --I assume that you took the DES. Yes, things can get worse when you start EMDR. Your therapist should help you with grounding techniques and talk to you about how to contain the emotions when they come up.
but she refusied to make emdr to me now
and i cant feel
i dont know wt to do
I know it's terrible to feel worse, but it is often part of the process, especially with trauma like you've had. Oh? Why did she stop the EMDR?
it is not she who started it
i start it in my countrie
she never do any emdr to me
i used to talk half tablet
of remeron to feel
i am taking 1 and half and i am dissoiated
so what happend to me?
I see. Are you seeing a Psychiatrist in Canada? In addition to your therapist?
do you recommend me to?
but i tried
You are still taking remeron?
do you know someone
OK, then you should definitely see a Psychiatrist. I do not know any in Canada, I am in the US. However, you may be able to find someone at either www.therapytribe.com or www.psychologytoday.com. The former website seems to have more Psychiatrists on it.
Or, your therapist may be able to recommend someone
so why reexperincing increased?
the increased dissociation you mean?
i feel that re experincing of trauama happend
i used to hv no re experincing
when i start emdr in my countrie
i felt that the fear goes on serfuce
Yes, but you did not get to finish the EMDR -- you stopped partway into the process
You may be less capable of "pushing away" the traumatic feelings than you were before you started the EMDR. This is not the only reason this occurs, it occurs in people without starting EMDR as well.
The "numbing" or ability not to re-experience the trauma is a coping mechanism that breaks down over time.
That's one reason that treatment is important.
yes but wt should i do
she refusied to make emdr to me
The new therapist? What does she want to do instead?
she want the dissoiated get less
OK. Are you two working on that?
today i met her
but i just dont feel good
because i want to start emdr at once
so i feel better
Maybe you need to ask her what her plan is to help you contain your dissociation. There are some therapists who do not use EMDR with dissociation, and there are some who are specially trained in it.
Overall, do you feel comfortable with your therapist?
yes she is good
i think so
but happens if i was dissoiated
and you did emdr?
OK, that's a good sign. It sounds like you just need to have more conversation with her about your treatment plan. It depends --do you have alters or do you just "leave the room" so to speak?
but wt should happend
if i did emdr now?
she told me you will be in danger
i couldnt ask her why
so this is my q
if ptsd caused dissoation
and dissioation make things worse
so what should i do
to get out dissoiation without emdr
i even was muvh much better
before i start emdr in my country
all sympotms come 10x
The EMDR can make the dissociation more intense, however, there are special protocols for using EMDR with dissociation. However, not every therapist is trained for that.
It can make a lot of sense to work on the dissociation before proceeding with the EMDR --but would require patience on your part.
this is why thing get worse
You might feel better if you ask her what the plan is --how much less dissociation would she like to see in you before proceeding, etc.
do you know ppl
and wake up
is it very hard
I know you have had some intense trauma. It is painful and difficult. Recovery can seem so slow.
It is not an easy thing to get better when you've been hurt so badly.
If you need more support from your therapist --ask for it.
Maybe you need 2 sessions a week for awhile, or something like that.
yes i guess so
ok thank you very much
You are so welcome. I hope that therapy progresses well for you. Please keep your hope up, you can get to a better place than where you are right now!
ok thank you
You are welcome. Take care and goodbye for now.