Hi Kate. You're welcome. I did reply to your first answer, but seems you may not have gotten it. I didn't mention that she had only been 5 months out from a 10yr r'ship when we met, as I wanted an answer without the preconceived notion it was a rebound. Since splitting, she has sort more time with her ex husband. My job is to get my 'ZEN' back. I want to analyse my part in this. I had patches of insecurity with her after the incidents I mentioned. Would you consider this normal to feel hurt/insecure from such things and was I right to raise these issues with her? Or am i too sensitive? If so, does such sensitivity come from low self esteem? I don't feel I have low self worth at all normally, but do like to question myself. The fact that I am asking you about all this indicates a certain amount of unsureness, although some validation from an 'unknown' is nice. I have taken a knock to my ego from this, but am bouncing back and know I will be fine.