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I am very sorry to know about this very concerning situation.
Each child has her-his own predispositions, something that genetics define, but it is from concrete experiences that parents literally shape their personalities and behaviors.
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she is very tall and a bit heavier... at school she hangs out with other taller girls, and sometimes boys. she helps with K-garden kids. recently she stopped taking lunches at school because she was called "fat ass". i believe that her teacher had a nice chat with her to help her emotionally to get throught it . she didn't mention a ward to me about incident, but left a paper note on dining table written with her blood from her fingertip "help". her silence scared me. for now i find out about it from her older sis. her older sister is almost never home: she is at dance studio all the time.
her older sibling does provoke her sometimes, and a little one adors to play with her but is on the oldest' side when three of them are together.
she is very gentle with little sister, and they play very well together.
she complains about how boring some classes are and how "stupid" some students are ( she is one of the best ).
plays guitar very well but too shy to do exams; has a great sense of humour and sometimes sounds too wise for her age.
and yes, she is more like her mother in terms of being shy, or angry, or creative. thank you
I've tried what you have suggested, but will do it again; and will see her teacher for sure. thank you.
That comparison with "bridge", and a family keeper is something that touched me: you said that "there could be some real pain there around not having the type of bond she would prefer" referring to her oldest sister. is there something we can do about it? any books that you can suggest? thank you, mom