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I can understand why you would be 2nd guessing yourself...you have had a very long relationship with this family and have been a source of both joy and pain to various members. That you apologized to the parents in the past...likely went a long way in proving that you had changed and were willing to accept responsibility for your past negative behaviors. That the son said he was waiting for your to call...surely shows that you are a valued member of this family.
The question I pose to you is this:
Is it TRUE that the dad was a fine man? One of the finest you have ever known?
Tell me honestly...
I really don't think that you could do any harm to them in this period. The truth of the matter is that the family is in shock! About the only thing they will remember in these early days (and even weeks) is that people wrote or called or attended the wake or attended the funeral or stopped by their house. Even then...it will be a blur. How they will even remember these things is that some of these include a written record (the online visitor book, cards, a guest book) and otherwise people are likely to mention who was there and who wasn't.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne here: your acknowledging the father's death by phone to your friend and by the online visitor book will serve to show that you cared and offered your condolences. End of story.
Yes his Dad was a very good husband and father married 66 years and always was putting his family first. He was the kind of man that you would model yourself after for being a husband and father.
Then you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty or upset about. You told the truth. That's all that counts.
You did the right thing..you honored a man you admired!
His family will appreciate that kindness...tremendously.
I appreciate the advice they are just such good people that I really did not want to take advantage of the situation. You think everything I did was Ok then?
Thank you very much
There is no way you took advantage of the dad's death.
You are very welcome!
That is a load off!!!
Glad to help you out here!
You made a good choice. Start trusting your gut!!!
Have a great week end
You as well!