I guess I'm just puzzled because she is able to maintain long term relationships with her girlfriends. We have been very close these last 7months and nothing like this ever happened. We've had misunderstandings but worked them out. I guess i'm looking not to end this friendship as quickly as she. I want to be able to let her know that I care about her but i think that may backfire. Do they ever reflect on things and recognize the damages that were done due to their behavior. Will they ever be able to initiate contact without fear of embarrassment? These feelings of idealization and devaluation are they permanent once they devalue you??? Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX rate after this.