I would like to help you with your question.
May I please ask how you lost your wife?
Have you ever addressed the sexual victimization with therapy?
Online chat may meet some of your needs for affection...but it is also a very lonely situation.
she died in november 7
I am so sorry.
i appreciate your condolence it still hurts
Have you thought about attending a grief support group? That is a way to meet other people and to get support for your feelings of loss.
And how was your experience in the group?
Yes...you are still in the very early stages of grief..it will take considerable time to build a new life.
the groups leader was on vacation when i called then i lost m,y phone
I strongly encourage you to get back in touch with the group leader and to find out when the next session is. Grief support groups are tremendously beneficial.
Have you considered other social groups...book club, gym, church activity group for adults?
i go and attend aa and church regurally
Are you able to meet women through your work, through church, networking with friends?
Okay...so you have some social outlets.
i work making coffee and am mentally disabled and very poor not a chick magnet :)
Is there any interest on your part to meet women you know from church, aa or work?
How did you meet your wife?
at a support group in 1989
Do you have family? Are they supportive in helping you grieve?
my dr says they are emotionaly abusive
So you do not have a close relationship with your family - is that right?
Do you have a social worker? Or other supportive persons working with you?
yes i have a very nice soldiar case manager at csi westbrook maine cynthia
Have you talked to her about your grief? And your desire to meet women?
baby make u mad?
Could you explain that? I am not sure what you mean by baby make u mad?
we have only met once
are u mad?
So she is a new social worker?
No. I am not mad.
I have no reason to be mad.
good alan releived
people get mad for no reason
I think it would be best to talk to your new social worker to see if she can help you.
She can help you get connected with a grief support group. And she may be able to help you find some social activity groups where you can meet other people.
Is that okay?
i understand it is a good idea
She will know what activities are available in your community.
i believe you are right
You can talk to her about what activities you like, what interests you, and then she can help you come up with a plan.
i will call her about this tommorow k?
Yes...that would be a great idea. Give her a call and get an appointment to go in and see her.
I will schedule an appointment with her tommorow
Great! I am so sorry that your wife has died. I can only imagine how sad you must feel.
i feel cold
Yes grief does leave us feeling very numb...unable to think well and very sad in our heart.
Please tell your social worker about the grief support group leader that you tried to reach. Maybe she can call and get the details about the group.
I will say goodnight now.
good n ight you also take care to yourself and yours
it ai't nothin