After almost 13 yrs I feel I should try harder, but I also feel at this point there is no going back. I feel like I am in limbo. He has promised to do or try anything to save our marriage, but I still see many of the same behaviors as before. I also feel like this is my fault for allowing some of this to go on and now expecting something different. He is a good provider and a decent husband in many ways, but I find that I don't have much in common with him or agree with him about many things. I know that marriages have lots of problems over the years and I guess I just keep waiting for things to come back to the way the were before. But I know I am tainted by some of this and I don't really look at him as the same man I did before. Does this sound like a normal thing for a marriage ofn13 yrs and if I wait, will these feeling fade? I know your not supposed to live a life based on feeling.