My name is XXXXX XXXXX I am the Moderator for this topic. Dr. L is not available right now, but I have sent him a message to follow up with you here, when he comes back online. If I can help further, please let me know. Thank you for your continued patience!
Okay, one last thing and I will rate you :). How can thinking positive help me see that type of behavior in people? rather than thinking negative?
It will help you see that type of behavior because you will be more aware and more open to feelings...rather than shut down. When you are in a negative place...the world seems dark and everything seems negative and you are more guarded. When you are positive...the world feels safer in general and then you can more easily notice when something is "off".
Dr. L I just realized something. When I was in high school I tried so MANY things to stop her from copying me:
-told the counselor & dean
-cussed at her through the internet
-embarass her in front of her friends
-made myself looks stupid so she wouldnt copy me
-start hanging out with my sister
.......................................then after all that I sorda gave up. I didn't know what else to do, instead I just started counting the days school would be over. Everyday was a struggle, I was so unhappy, scared and I hated her so much.
But then I think, "what if could have tried more? like what if could have done something I never really do?" In my dreams I am always yelling at her face, hitting her, punching her, slapping her like beating her up. Then I think...what if I had beat her up at school? not at school, but in the street because then I would have got in trouble. I feel maybe if I have tried MORE maybe I could have made her hate me and leave me alone for good like calling her house constantly and scaring her
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okay, but can you be honest with me?...
Do you think that if I keep practicing to think positive, I will actually accomplish that? I mean it's distorted thinking, but can it actually be corrected?
Right now it feels like it's going to be stuck there forever like I believe it 100%...and I am scared
I think you might be trying to hard. Yes...the thinking part of your mind probably doesn't want to let go of this as you have been thinking in this manner for so long. But...it really is better to see life from a positive viewpoint.
When you start to feel a headache...go out for a walk...read a book...sit in the sun...do something to distract you from really having to think.