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When you are anxious, your thoughts are causing your mind to think your in danger, such as when you are driving. Your body reacts by releasing adrenaline into your system. Adrenaline cause you to feel the body symptoms like you describe- weird feelings in your body, your stomach hurts (appetite can be affected as well) and an uneasy feeling, like something is wrong. It is much like after you have had a bad scare except with anxiety, there is no focus. The only thing you have to focus on is how you feel. And because your thoughts are probably always on alert, so is your body. This is most likely why you experience these symptoms.
The issues with holding an erection during sex may also be related to the anxiety. With anxiety, you are very in tune with the symptoms you are experiencing, including the fear. It can be distracting and your body reacts to that.
To be sure all is well, consider having a full physical by your doctor. As a rule, you want to eliminate any possibility that there is a physical cause for what you are experiencing. Most likely, you are just fine. But it helps to be sure.
The good news is that anxiety is easy to treat with therapy. In therapy, you learn to pay attention to what you are thinking to make yourself anxious. The therapist then can help you change your thoughts and therefore how your body reacts to your thoughts. You also can learn about how to let yourself float through your anxiety thereby gaining more control over how you feel. When anxiety comes on, you allow it to flow over you without tensing or panicking in response. This makes the anxiety reduce or go away faster. To find a therapist, talk to your doctor about a referral. Or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
Medications are helpful to ease the symptoms but they vary in their effectiveness. Each person has their own body chemistry and what works for one may not work for another. Also, once you take medication for a while, your body becomes accustomed to it and you either need an increase in dosage or you need to try a new medication. But medications can help to reduce your symptoms quickly so you can work on overcoming your fears.
You can also help yourself at home. There are numerous resources to help you learn more about anxiety. Here are some to get you started:
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund Bourne is excellent for any fears. It is self help and contains everything from supplements to relaxation techniques.
The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety: A Step-by-Step Program by Bill Knaus Ed.D. and Jon Carlson Psy.D. Ed.D.
to Power: Proven Techniques to Calm Your Anxieties, Conquer Your Fears, and Put You in Control of Your Life by Lucinda Bassett
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
I hope this has helped you,
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