Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about this.
If you husband has a history or infidelity and has not yet been working to recover from the sex addiction issue- I certainly understand how distressing this is for you.
You have to realize that it is his behavior that is making you feel that you are losing your mind... It is not your fault and you should not own any responsibility for his actions.
Hello. He was in counseling and did well with that. I am just trying to get past it and cannot.
It really bothers me to know that he complains to his co-workers about my insecurity when they do not know the whole truth.
Hi- I understand---- This is not an uncommon process for someone with your husbands issues-
He is spreading the "bad word" about you to bolster his own Narcissistic need to continue in his dysfunctional behavior.
This is emotional abuse and with this type- change is very difficult. All you can do is get more help for yourself.
Is it possible for you to return to counseling?
Yes, I have thought about it. Is it realistic for me to believe that I can get past this?
I am obsessing over what he could or could not be doing and it consumes me.
Certainly - you are going to need some help and support but you certainly can work through this.
I am going to give you some information that will help you:
Ok. Are you sending the information to my email or through this site?
yes- here are some links:
My sense based on working with types like you husband is that he has a Narcissistic Personality-
Does that mean that it's "all about him"?
This will help you understand they dynamics and also there is an online support forum where you can connect with others who are dealing with the same issues.
Narcissism is the self absorbed type-------using others (in this case you) to further their hidden agenda
I think deep down he is a really good person and does love me and want this. Trouble is, I don't trust him. Thank you for the information.
You are most welcome- I wish you the very best at this most difficult time.
Kindest regards, Bill
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you will have a copy of this chat in email for further review.
Will do. Thanks again!