when she moved back in i had no say on the matter and he knew she would eventually move back. i have pushed this issue and put alot of pressure on him and decided to back off because i almost lost him over it. she is able to be on her own but chooses not to. he said in the beginning he would discuss with her on a time frame and would ease her on her own, well that hasn't really happened. she pretty much tells him that she wants to stay until we sell the house to receive the equity and he of course doesn't reply to her so she assumes it's okay without even getting my opinion. our relationship was almost lost not too long ago because of her and she seems to making the decisions and he's afraid to tell her now obviously so he goes along with it regardless of how it will impact our relationship and how it affects me. i know he's not going to tell her she will have to leave sooner than she's planning so how do i get the point across that another few years is not tolerable? he may let me go to avoid telling his mom to leave i think.