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For better or for worse, it seems fairly obvious that your friend has developed sexual feelings for you or it at least very sexually curious.
As your best friend and "brother" he obviously loves you.
I think, however, you have roused the sexual "beast" in him.
Putting one's hand on another's but is an overt sexual act.
Trying to share movies with you that are obviously erotic and that he knows would get you aroused were his way of trying to seduce you.
Because you are so close, I would confront him directly about this and tell him that if he doesn't want to jeopardize your friendship or abuse your trust, then he better chill out.
Perhaps he has just fallen in love with you and gender is not an issue. That is very likely and is something that you will have to take up with him.
If there is any other way that I can further assist you, please feel free to get back with me.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
I see you typing. I'll wait ! :)
I really appreciate your help, honestly I was afraid of all of the above being true
It is fairly clear from my objective and professional standpoint.
yes, not what I wanted to hear but I believe you
I don't want to hurt him but at the same time I can't be friends if he's doing this
Now you have to deal with it by having a serious chat with him.
I'm sure that if you lay down the law you can re-configure your friendship.
we are so close, so I really hope so, he is the closest friend I've ever had
But you are not ready or willing or able to change your orientation, I assume.
Right, I am in no way sexually attracted to him, not even a little
You will have to "read him the riot act" and lay down the law.
I believe that you will save this friendship.
I really hope so, I really appreciate your help with this
I usually avoid rather than confront, his words about me actually, but you are right, I have to act this time
I will keep you both in my prayers and know you will work this out. You have too much of a friendship and need to act now and not let it fester.
Thank you :)
You are so welcome. You will be fine.