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I believe that I can help.
The situation is as you see it.
Your husband is being very negative and destructive.
You should be taking your son's side because his father is abusing him emotionally.
He should be mommy's and daddy's boy, but if daddy rejects him then he is mommy's boy.
You have every reason to disrespect your husband for his lack of empathy and concern.
He is at a critical stage of his early life at 14.
He also had to have suffered a great deal of trauma in his first 2 years of life before you adopted him. He needs EXTRA care and nurturing, and certainly doesn't need to feel rejected, abandoned or bullied.
Your husband has to be the adult and if he cannot control his behavior then he needs help.
Can you see my writing?
I wasn't sure.
Wasn't sure if you were there.
If you don't have any comments or anything to ask, you do not have to respond. I am trying to do my best to help you.
You are in a situation in which your husband is not behaving properly, is harming your son, and is not able to see the harm he is doing and won't get family counseling with you.
That could be very true, but you have a situation that must be addressed now, or your son will suffer.
It makes your son cringe (and makes me cringe too).
Can you persuade him to go to counseling? Does he say to you also that you must listen and obey?
You should go with him.
You need to find a GOOD counselor, probably an experienced licensed marriage and family counselor (LMFT).
I would search at www.psychologytoday.com and look over the prospects VERY carefully and use your intuition.
Then make a few calls. Initial contact is usually free and welcome.
When you have some good prospects, take them to your husband and let him know that you believe this is urgent and affecting your family's well-being.
Where do you live?
Is Cincinnati too far?
I am in southern Kentuckyh.
Just out of interest.
Let me have a look.
Near Dale Hollow. I cannot offer you service because of my agreement with JustAnswer.
I'm still searching.
Nobody in Maysville so far. I will have a look at another source in my file.
In the meantime look at this site in Cinci
for Cymbria Hess.
You should call him on itl
He is causing damage to him.
This is what gives children trauma related disorders later in live, such as Borderline Personality Disorder, particularly because he was abandoned in one way or the other when he was tiny.
The Counseling Center
829 E Walnut St, West Union, OH 45693
Is this close?
Family Resource Ctr
STATE Route 10, Tollesboro, KY 41189 (NNN) NNN-NNNN/p>
You need to approach him delicately. He is a controlling person and will be defensive and may be angry.
Appeal to his intellectual sense of doing the best thing for your son's development. Be positive but don't back down.
Would he respond well to a parenting workbooks (high quality and intelligent)?
I have two for you. I will give you the links.
Support him. He needs your support.
Don't take sides so as to create hostility and warfare with your (unreasonable) husband. But let your son know that he is not alone and NOT ABANDONED.
You have to manage TWO children.
I shall keep you in my prayers.
Thank you so much for your kind words.
Yes it will. You can also save it, or copy it to work, or print it out as well.
copy it to WORD
You are so very welcome.