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You got involved sexually in away that lots of guys have gotten involved with You learned your lesson, you are not hooked on it, and i is over and done with.
it doesnt seem like alot of guy have. or few will admit it
You didn't catch any sexually transmitted diseases, I imagine (and should get tested), and you have learned your lesson. That is obvious
More likely that few will admit it
i did not cach a std
You don't need to show your cards to anyone.
You are clean and health and have nothing to explain to anybody.
yeah i gess. but i feel like i would have to tell my wife
You are less likely to do something like that now than the average guy who never did and may still think it is something cool to do.
yes that is true
Women are funny that way. If you tell her that you will be making a mistake. She does not need to know. It will not make your relationship better and when times are tough she will throw it up a you
Why do you think she has to know everything about you?
i think it would be hard not to tell them
Do you tell her your personal habits, the very private ones that perhaps she does as well, and don't mean masturbation. Just silly embarrassing things like picking your does or sniffing your fingers, and so on?
There is no need to tell and make yourself sound like you may still be capable of doing such things?
Why would it be hard not to tell her?
i've had such a crazy life. nothing about it is normal, i've seen people dump dead bodys. ive stabbed people, ive been to jail.
But you are not into that life any more, or are you?
I did not think so, actually. Not for a moment.
Leave the past behind
Work on the future.
Continue to may the present a time of good decisions and kindness.
You are who you are now, and not who you were.
Do you want people to see you how you are now? That is the REAL you.
How you were is gone, dumped with the other bodies.
You were blessed to have changed your life. Look ahead and keep marching with your head high and DON''T TURN AROUND.
I think you are quite a remarkable man and strong encourage you to promote and live what you have become and forget the ugly parts of your old life. Don't breathe any more life back into the dead.
i almost feel homosexual about it though even though i just wanted to have sex with the women. not that i have a prejidice to homosexuals just that it is sexual devience for me. and you are right i dont need to be who i was im compleatly diffrent
Then move on. Everyone experiences all kinds of sexual feels during their lives whether the act upon them or not.
You are honest enough and tough enough to admit to yourself. That's great. Now get out there and conquer the world the right way.
your right, i need to take my negative experiences and grow from them and do what is right.
And you will. My experience tells me that you will be just fine.
thank you. thats all i needed.
I will keep you in my prayersl
You are very welcome.