My younger sister and I were abused children. My sister has always tried to dominate me, and has taken advantage of me many times. Throughout the years, I have taken vacations from her, because I just can't stand they way she treats me, and her attitudes of others. She never takes responsibility for her actions. We are in our 60's now and she is worse than ever. I was my sister's pseudo mother since our own mother checked out of motherhood when our Dad died. I seem unable to cut the cord for good. I was trained to take care of her, and I guess it stuck. Just lately, I agreed to let her sell our house because she is a realtor and poor. She has all these phobias that she uses on people to get her way. We are currently not speaking because she said she is getting me back for previous times when I have distanced myself. I really want this to be it..the end of our relationship. I know she will call the next time she wants something. I just need the courage to hang up without any words or explanation. Why can't I do this? I'm a strong person, not a wimp.
I always feel guilty and some feelings of abandonment do come up at times. I mean I am abandoning her..that's what it feels like.
Thanks for your detailed reply. I have guilt where she is concerned but it is unreasonable guilt. I know in my mind, I have done everything I can, but some how it still happens..the guilt, that is. Will this ever go away?