I-m having difficulty moving away from a narcissist/ it-s really getting me down / any advice. we had a relationship a year ago and he keeps popping up to stop me from moving forward. its getting me down. i feel intimidated by him. is anyone going to answer this
Again- you first have to educate yourself and define YOUR path forward.
This is something you can do.
If you have additional questions for me, feel free to ask.
Kindest regards, Bill
Dear Bill, many thx for replying/ i turned off the computer as the reply took a long time. Can you tell me if it would be better for me to move/ i-m trying to maintain no contact but i live in a small place where everybody knows everybody and he is v difficult to avoid/ / if he even hears things about me, i find him turning up at the door. Im really getting to my wits end about this. thx
Hi Frances-Sometime people have to move to get away from the Narcissist. Keep in mind that the Narcissist if fearful of abandonment if he is continuing to show up at your door, he will ultimately use other tactics- i.e. defame you before others to try and regain control.What ever you have to do- I would do - if your desire is to get away.If anything- watch this video from one of the leading experts in the world on Narcissism- Sam VakninIt is attached above but he explains what you are dealing with in breaking away from the Narcissist:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZEJc_0Aks04I apologize for the delay - and trust that this will help.Kindest regards, Bill
Thanks Bill. I-m watching the utube videos now and they explain things very clearly. I thought I had got away from him at xmas but he phoned me twice at very bizarre times 2am one morning, then just before christmas day. i hadn-t told him i was going back to my native home for xmas so it was obviously control. I tried to be cool about the behaviour but as soon as i got back he was on my doorstep, the same thing happened last week as i think he got to hear that i would be going to a party with friends on saturday so again it is control, checking up. I try and avoid him all the time but it makes me isolated and i feel i am suffering from a degree of PTSD as i dont seem able to socialise like before and feel very on edge going out / to the extent people here have started to comment. The thing was I was fine when I was away from here and him/ with my family so my thinking is to get away/ it seems the only solution.