Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about this issue with the Narcissist in your life. It is extremely difficult as you well know to move forward after being embroiled by a Narcissistic type- but it can be done through increased learning, support and having a clear direction.
I have specific Expertise in Personality Disorders and when dealing with a Narcissist, you have to understand that you are dealing with someone that is functioning at a very primitive level. Although many are very bright , successful and worldly, it is just a hollow shell of person that you are dealing with . They are fragile- just like and egg.....when they are challenged or feel threatened- the respond in childish ways often attempting to make others (in this case you) responsible for their problems........again, you are dealing with a person that relates emotionally- like a child.
Educating yourself and learning how to escape these toxic dynamics can be accomplished and you can move forward with your life. You have to understand that this is an abusive relationship and you are the victim.
I am attaching some detailed information that will help you toward this goal of detachment and moving forward.http://outofthefog.net/Disorders/NPD.htmlhttp://www.minddisorders.com/Kau-Nu/Narcissistic-personality-disorder.htmlhttp://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily.html
See this Video on how to separate from the Narcissist:
I also recommend the book:
"Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life"
Again- you first have to educate yourself and define YOUR path forward.
This is something you can do.
If you have additional questions for me, feel free to ask.
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