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How do I deal with living in a marrage with some one that wants

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How do I deal with living in a marrage with some one that wants nothing to do with me but can't leave?
Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.

I would be happy to help you with this, however, to provide the best possible response, I am going to need more detail.

Please provide more detail about your marital history and what has lead to this point.
Also elaborate on what you mean by "but can't leave"

I look forward to hearing from you.

Kindest regards,


Bill
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
We got married really young. Cause we had are first child and she figured we should times were hard money wise so I became a truck driver. So I am gone a lot things kinda just went on then second child came along we built a house and shortly after she became distant told me she was just liven the youth she never had because she had are children so young. I just said ok then I get a call one night that I have to go to doctor because she gave me a std to witch she tells me she got raped by a friend but didn't want anyone to know about cause she thinks she might have lead him on ( cause you know I flirt when I drink) so I just let that one slid. She kinda is back in to the marrage for awhile then she is hang out with a old friend from school and becomes close with her boy friend to witch I don't feel is right so I ask it too stop and shit hit fan she said I wad jumping to conclusions but it ends. A while goes by she tells me she dosnt love me anymore but doesn't want to wreak our family but she doesn't want me to talk or touch hey anymore but I don't want to live like that
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
Both of are are willing to leave the home we built for our children or have the money to life alone
MIke -

Thank you for the additional information.

In situations like this it is often helpful to meet with a Marriage Therapist to sort out the reality of what sounds like a complex situation and figure out the best path that will meet your desired goals.

This is not designed to resurrect the marriage but to develop a plan under the difficult circumstance that you are dealing with.

Is that something that you and your wife would agree to? If not, I would suggest that you meet with some one to get some help sorting this out so that you can maintain your emotional well-being.

I look forward to hearing from you.


Kindest regards, Bill
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
Thanks we tried that it never solved much
Mike-

I understand- and this is a very difficult situation to deal with .

If you like to read- I highly recommend the book "Choices" Taking Control of your life and making it Matter by Melody Beattie

Book information can be found here:

http://www.harpercollins.com/browseinside/index.aspx?isbn13=9780061741258


I am also attaching a link that will help you maintain your emotional wellbeing

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/mental_emotional_health.htm


I wish you the very best,

Bill



Customer: replied 4 years ago.
Thanks. Will look in on those
Mike - You are most welcome.

All the best,

Bill
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