How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Ryan LCSW Your Own Question

Ryan LCSW
Ryan LCSW, Mental Health
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 872
Experience:  Individual and Family Therapist
16045978
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
Ryan LCSW is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Hello I have a 14 year old daughter who has for the last 3

Resolved Question:

Hello
I have a 14 year old daughter who has for the last 3 weeks reacted extremely badly to the fact that her dad and I are splitting up. She is having hysterical tantrums including attacking me verbally and pysically. She blames me for the break up of the marriage. She is also destroying things by throwing them around etc. she is talking of killing herself. My dr is ringing me about the situation tomorrow but I am really worried!
Any thoughts please?
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Ryan LCSW replied 1 year ago.
Thanks for your question.

I'm terribly sorry to hear about what you're going through with your daughter, and it sounds like a very scary situation. She is obviously very angry about you and her father splitting up, and certainly needs some help in handling her emotions. Right now if you are afraid that she may harm you, herself, or anyone else, you may have to consider calling the police. Of course that would be the last resort, but in some cases it is the only way to ensure everyone's safety. Since she is under 18, with the police involvement it may also be possible to have her involuntarily committed to the hospital until she is considered to be stabilized.

Individual and/or Family Counselling would be the most logical step, especially considering how extreme her behavior is right now. There are also medications that she doesn't have to take permanently, but would help her to get her emotions more under control in the short term. If you are having troubling figuring out where to start, the easiest first step would be to set up an appointment with a psychiatrist so that she can have a proper evaluation done. That will help you get some appropriate recommendations, and figure out the best way to proceed from that point. Your doctor should also be aware of the best local resources for these types of problems, so your discussion with them should prove to be helpful.

If your daughter has never otherwise been this way, she will eventually pull through it. This is obviously a time of crisis in her life, and she may feel betrayed or hurt by the people who have supported her the most. It's not uncommon for that to translate into some scary or reckless behavior, and the circumstances do make it difficult for you personally to get through to her. The hope is that getting her set up with some proper supplementary support will help her to resolve these issue, get back to trusting her parents, and being herself again.

I definitely wish the you the best with all of this. If there is anything else I can do to help please let me know.

Ryan
Ryan LCSW, Mental Health
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 872
Experience: Individual and Family Therapist
Ryan LCSW and other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Thank you for the message. Since communicating she has made cuts on her wrists. Do you think she has a pyscological problem or do you think this is just a reaction to a situation?

Many thanks
Dawn
Expert:  Ryan LCSW replied 1 year ago.

Hi Dawn, cutting is definitely a sign that something is wrong, and is often brought on be depression. Most likely if your daughter was otherwise fine prior to you and your husband splitting up, it is a reaction to that, and that she will eventually recover to her normal self again. This is still a psychological problem that she is having that needs to be taken seriously and treated properly, but in that case it would be a temporary one. Let me know if there's anything else I can do to help. Hang in there,


Ryan

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education