Hi Michael! I'll be glad to be of help with this issue.
I can imagine how difficult this situation must be for you. You are clearly a loving and caring person and you are doing an incredible job with your mom. It's truly remarkable the efforts you're putting in. She's extremely fortunate to have you there.
My concern is that she's not thinking in practical ways about her situation and how to make it the best it can be. She's very frustrated at not being able to do things that she was able to before with each succeeding setback she has. But instead of taking the steps to try to adjust and to maximize her mobility and abilities afterwards, she just stays frustrated and lets the frustration out on you. I'm sorry you have to bear that frustration and it's really very wonderful of you to take it as well as you do.
It is important, though, at this time that she accept some guidance as to how to improve her mobility and maximize her situation. That means from professionals, doctors and physical therapists, etc. And that will mean most likely having some aides come to her home to help her and to give you a break.
Please don't minimize the importance of you getting a break. You are a caregiver and it seems you're a full time caregiver. That's an incredible load you're taking on and you need to have aides coming in to help you get a breather on a more regular and consistent basis so that you can help her most effectively, okay?
Along with that, the doctors and therapists who will prescribe the home care assistance will help her with skills and will help you as well in how to help her. So that is an additional important advantage.
So, yes, this is the right time to get additional help involved in your mom's care. That is a good decision you're considering making and I encourage you to move forward with it.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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