Thank you for this most helpful information.
When one grows up in a family where there is drinking and infidelity, the foundation is laid for children to poor self esteem, low self worth, anxiety
, questions of what is right vs wrong, what is normal vs abormal.
As you have written, this later leads to poor choices in relationships and (it is common to have a number of failed marriages as you never had a model of what is healthy) and this also applies to ones internal world and leads to ongoing issues with insecurity, a heightened sense of wondering "what is wrong with me" -SENSITIVITY to how you are perceived by others in all relationships - co-worker-friends- family.
Typically, one trys be over pleasing in effort to fix problems in effort to restore and repair what is the inner sense of loss that occured while growing up.
We call this a Co-dependent foundation and it is through learning about co-dependency and resolving the issues related to family of origin that one is able to become more self confident and less sensititve to the the myriad of issues that are commonly seen in people who have experienced what you have in your life.
I am attaching some helpful links that explain this in detail and what you can do to overcome this problem with feeling too "sensitive:"http://joy2meu.com/condition_codependency.html
The above link has a number of additional links that address all issues surrounding codependence and low self worth. It is an excellent resource.
Inner Child healing is where you begin:http://joy2meu.com/inner_child.html
Additional links that will help you - follow:http://www.coda.org/tools4recovery/patterns-new.htmhttp://melodybeattie.com/codependency/
I also want you to read the following that is a useful guide in establishing emtional wellbeing:http://www.helpguide.org/mental/mental_emotional_health.htm
This is a lot of information to absorb, however, it will help you get on the path to feeling better and less sensitive.
If you have additonal question for me, feel free to ask.....I am happy to help.
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