These are Mental Illnesses and as stated in the link- the differences are as follows:
"Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a different condition from the more commonly known Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). OCD is often characterized by a repetition or adherence to rituals. OCPD is characterized more by an unhealthy adherence to perfectionism."
You have to look at this as you would someone that has a condition such as diabetes.
There is no cure- but there is treatment.
I has been demonstrated that couples can best cope with this disorder in marital therapy with a Cognitive Behavioral approach which is designed to identify triggers to conflict and develop strategies that have productive resolution vs destructive escalation.
It can be very difficult for someone to be in a relationship with someone with OCD and some help tips are as follows:
Learn as much as you can about OCD and its treatment.
View the obsessive-compulsive behaviors as symptoms, not character flaws. Do not allow OCD to take over family life.
- Do not participate in the person's rituals.
- Communicate positively, directly and clearly.
- Keep calm.
- Mix humor with caring.
- Know the signs that show the person is struggling with his or her OCD.
- Support your family member's medication and treatment program.
- Don't forget that you are only human.
Take care of yourself
Caught up in concern and caring for the person who is ill, family members may not take proper care of themselves. They may give up their own activities and become isolated from their friends and colleagues. This may go on for some time before they realize they are emotionally and physically drained. The stress can lead to sleeping problems, exhaustion and constant irritability.
- Keep your own support network.
- Avoid becoming isolated.
- Recognize signs of stress in yourself.
- Know what situations within your family are most stressful in coping with OCD.
- Keep up your interests outside the family.
- Consider having your own professional support.
- Take a little time each day just for you.
Using these coping strategies will help you deal with this. If you and your husband are willing seek counseling as I addressed above.
I also again recommend that you get and read the Book:
"Loving Someone with OCD: Help for You and Your Family"
It has many helpful coping strategies that you can employ to deal with this more effectively.
You have to become your own expert on this subject and I always suggest people learn as much as they can about the disorder and get necessary support.
Another great organization that I recommend to patients and families is the OCD FOUNDATION:http://www.ocfoundation.org/
You have to educate yourself and find support and understand that you are not alone. Many people are married to persons with OCD and learn to cope and function very well. Again, this is treatable and can be stabilized.
I suggest you gain as much help as needed........it is available.
I trust this better clarifies my suggestions for you and your husband.
Kindest regards, Bill
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