Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about this problem your are having with your spouse as related to his problems with OCD.
If you go to the following link you will find information on how to deal with and online support with others confronted with the same problems. It will help you learn more, receive support from other and be better able to cope with this problem.
Online Support Forum:
I also recommend that you get the book:
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I trust this will help you with this most difficult issue
Kindest regards, Bill
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Hi, Bill. Thanks for the OCPD info link. I read about that page. I think my husband has a lot symptom of OCPD stated on there. But it did not help me with that question, how to deal with it from my pont of view as a spouse. Can you summarize with your own words so I don't have to look everywhere on the page?
Is OCPD a mental illness? What is the difference between personality disorder and mental illness?
Hi, I read the website again. It helped with some questions I have. I hope you don't mind to help me with a little more details. I think the most difficult thing I have to deal with my husband is his manipulative and sabotage behaviour. It get me confused, going nuts, sometimes. He is the man I married for 15 years now, I am very frustrated with the relationship. I felt lonely and scared about getting close to him at all.
Learn as much as you can about OCD and its treatment.
View the obsessive-compulsive behaviors as symptoms, not character flaws. Do not allow OCD to take over family life.
Take care of yourself
Caught up in concern and caring for the person who is ill, family members may not take proper care of themselves. They may give up their own activities and become isolated from their friends and colleagues. This may go on for some time before they realize they are emotionally and physically drained. The stress can lead to sleeping problems, exhaustion and constant irritability.
Using these coping strategies will help you deal with this. If you and your husband are willing seek counseling as I addressed above.
I also again recommend that you get and read the Book:
Thank you, it helped.