I have been in a 4 yr long distance relationship with a man who I have come to realize has and emotional or personality disorder (hypomania maybe). In the beginning he was so nice, chivalrous, took me places, made me feel special. He asked me to marry him the first time we met in person. Months later, fights on the phone started; they were nonsensical and he would yell for about 10 min. straight w/o letting me speak, then he would hang up and give me the cold shoulder (one time for 3 weeks!).
During the rages, he says nonsensical things about me (things he believes i would do, etc.). Later, he would apologize, but I was never allowed to bring up the issues at hand or things that were said.
He has admitted to me recently that he has been addicted to porn for over 20 yrs. but that he just stopped and will never look at it again. He is definitely hypersexual. He also was convicted of consensual sex with a minor in 1996 (he was 39 at the time).
I care alot about this man but realize that he will probably never get help. He is very against counselling, altho' recently the V.A. has diagnosed him with PTSD and mild depression (that's only because he told them PART of the story).
He was sexually abused by his father as a child and his mother did
nothing to stop it.
I'm lost and cannot approach him about his hurtful behavior.
Should I just get out?