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I'm sorry to hear about what you've been going through with your husband. It sounds like there has been an obvious change in your relationship over time, and while this is not too uncommon, it can be the sign of some larger problems if this continues to go unaddressed. In trying to resolve this, a lot depends on the reason why things got to this point. It is possible that there are problems in your marriage that are contributing to this. However, often times people get caught up in their own lives and routines, which doesn't necessarily indicate relationship problems, but more of a need to reevaluate and reprioritize what is important in life.
Either way, if you and your husband are having a hard time talking about this and working through it, a marriage counselor can certainly help. Sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint exactly what went wrong, or what the solution is. In that case it can be extremely beneficial to talk it through with a professional who is experienced in helping people resolve these types of problems. Despite the fact that you and your husband may be having a hard time right now, if you can both agree that you want to make this relationship better and are willing to work on it, there is certainly reason to be optimistic for the future, even if that required the help of a counselor.
I definitely wish you both the best with all of this, and if there's anything else I can do to help just let me know.