Persons with Asperger's experience difficulty reading nonverbal cues such as body language. They often have trouble determining things like appropriate body space. They are often overly sensitive to tastes, smells sounds, and sights. People with Asperger's can prefer things like specific foods, soft clothes, and may be bothered by lights or sound that nobody else appears to see or hear. They perceive the world differently, so it is important to remember that it is their neurological differences that cause these behaviors and not intentional rudeness, bad behavior, a lack of intelligence, or, "bad parenting."
Persons with Asperger's syndrome have a regular I.Q. - Many people affected by the disorder have exceptional skills or talents related to a specific area.They often have an average/regular I.Q. Due to their high degree of functionality and naivete, persons with Asperger's are many times seen as being either odd or eccentric and may become the victims of either bullying or teasing. Persons with Asperger's syndrome tend to take things very literal and have a hard time using language in social contexts. During social interactions, persons with Asperger's may avoid the gaze of another person and turn away from them, even as they greet the other person. While they may want to interact with others, they have trouble knowing how to do so. They are capable of learning how to interact with others, much in the same way anyone else would learn a new skill. While they may have a more difficult time doing so, adults with Asperger's syndrome can have relationships, families, as well as both happy and productive lives. You mentioned you have a good and regular family life.
When you say you get tired- it's exhuasting trying to overcompensate for the challenges and struggles, working hard to fit into society and the expectations that may come more natural for others. It's a great help that your wife is so supportive. Learning more about this may offer insight for both you and your wife.There is no one single treatment method for Aspergers. Treatment involves addressing the core symptoms of the disorder.