Oh okay cool...that gives me a place to start. On June 15th, Bob went
over to his friend Jim's house to pick up some food. Jim did not notice
anything weird. It was 4pm on a friday afternoon. When Bob left, he
ran off the road in a one car accident. It was a two lane road next to a lake.
He hit a tree which stopped him from going into the lake. He had to be cut out of ford ranger and air lifted to the hospital. He broken all his ribs, his right knee in two places, his back, crushed 4 vetebrae, had internal injuries and a hematoma from hitting his frontal lobe on the windshield.
Here's the kicker...when he arrived at the E.R., his blood alcohol level was .28 Which is pretty much alcohol poisoning and death for most folks. He was in intensive care for 4 weeks, the first week he was not expected to live. After 4 weeks in ICU, he was moved to rehab for 4 weeks, and then spent 3 weeks in assisted living. He went home the 3rd week in September ith the only residual physical problem of having some memory loss called amosia from the brain trauma, and a bum right knee because the two breaks were not discovered until he was moved to rehab.
From that time until two weeks ago Tuesday, he had been telling every one that he could not drink because it would negate the effectiveness of the drug he was on for his brain swelling but that he didn't want to drink again anyway. For the entire time Bob was in the hospital thru assisted living, Jim (who is an ex marine about 10 years older than bob, about 64) spent time with him every day. Jim had worked in the pharacutical industry for over 30 years so he was very helpful in understanding all that was going on. He started writing updates on Bob's wall on Facebook every day to keep all Bob's friends up to date with his progress.
I took all his Facebook posts, along with pictures that friends were posting and made it into a very nice graphic which I can upload to you with your email address...its a large document and I will have to send it
thru |YouSentIt. I'd like you to see it just so you have a sense of the effort I went to, as well as all the Jim wrote. It is quite amazing.... I asked Jim to
go over to Bob's apartment and get his gujitars out and store them at his house for fear they would get damaged or stolen.
Then two weeks ago Tuesday, Bob was arrested after driving drunk
and refusing to stop for police, resisting arrest, a blood alcohol level of
.198, a bevy of traffic charges. He had run several people off the road, refused to show his hands or get out of the car. Officers had 4 weapons on him when the "helped" him get out of the car. He was going from 2 to 26 mph, and said that he never saw blue lights or heard sirens. Oh and he also ran into two cruisers when he wouldn't stop.
Here is what has also been revealed. Bob has been lying to Jim since the day he met him...about everything...from how his ex-wife had been to telling Jim he was not drinking. Jim and his wife bought Bob a washer and dryer for Christmas to try and help him.
Then there is Wendy....she saw Bob play at a club in San Francisco in 1988 and became a Facebook communication with him ever since but had never met him. She lives in New Zealand. Bob loved to brag abuot having a fan in New Zealand, like he was some international pop star.
Wendy friended me on facebook and pretty much milked me for information about Bob and myrelationship, then defriended me. She flew to see him in Ohio from New Zealand and planned to stay two weeks. She arrived just as he was being moved to assisted living. She stayed for 3 months and two weeks and made it clear to Bob that she wanted to marry. She ended up leaving when her visa ran out but purchased her
own engagement ring when Bob would not consent to the marriage...
It has now come out that Wendy cannot have natural vaginal sex and is
either genetically deformed or was born a boy. Yes...it really is this
I also found out that Bob has been have "friends with benefits" sex with
Brenda who lives in the apartments across from him the entire time we
Recently, several people in his life...his brother...Brenda...his ex Roberta...Jim...and Cindy from Mississippi who had been talking to him, felt strongly that he was drinking heavily. The assisted living place accused Bob of getting liquor snuck in. His ex is now revealing that
Bob has been a falling down drunk since they were married 20 years ago.
The really disgusting part is that Bob has been "shopping" for his next
woman with money, an enabling or caretaking heart, and who would
have sex with him to take care of him.
Bob is what I would call a sociopath who has also been a raging falling down alcoholic all his life. Some of his high school friends have now said that Bob would always drink until he passed out when he was young.
I'm REALLY trying to make this short. I've got to leave work and drive
home and I'll let you read all this while I'm doing it....but my issue is
not only have Jim and I discovered that we have been lied to since the
day we met Bob, but he completely used me for no other purpose than to see if I would take care of him...same thing with Jim. He has lied about a ton of things which he claimed Roberta had done... Roberta has admitted
that she was his lottery ticket enabler because she tried to keep him
happy and hopefully get him to participate in the marriage by buying him guitars and music stuff.
I am not used to dealing wiht someone who is completely deceptive...
I was married to an alcoholic for 18 years, which makes me feel even
more stupid because I never saw any signs of all this...neither did Jim.
To say we are hurt and angry would be such a huge understatement...
ok...I'm driving while you are reading....