I am married for 25 years love marriage and have 3 children 2 grown up sones studying abraod and one teenage daugher. I have always had difficult relation in my marriage. my elder son and my daugher are demotivated and have problems in their studies for the last 4 years. My husband have financial dept for the last 8 years. I have been solving about 70% of our expenses.
Last year I thought many times about divorce but didn't because my daughter will be sitting for IGCSE this summer and I don't won't to change the country. The communication beween me and my husband is very poor especially if we have to solve serious problems I don't know
where his dept came from we had a big fight last months and he seems depreesed for long time chronic depression but I never thought about it til last year when our son faced some problems in his study.
Do you think taking a break from work will help ? I am thinking of moving from the house and leave him alone.
I feel now I don't won't to work I have great disappointment in my life. I alway been successful I always put efforts achieve my goals. But now I can't concentrate to do my work I am researcher with PhD. I feel my mind blocked when I start to work or read a publication. Sometimes I cry I have feeling of failure. I want to give up on everything work marriage being parent
I don' know what to do? I need the job as my children depend on me and they are all still studying. I feel the whole family needs help.
Yes, I have lots of problem. I feel my mind just want to stop. I am onlyconcerned that ats this point leaving the house might not be the solution as I have been in this job for 10 years well esablished and I am afraid that I don't have the energy to start all over again I need a job as my sons are studying abroad and my daughter also needs supports.
I am also going through menpause period with lots of problems and health issues like endometriosis and I have secured medical insurance here. I also live abroad and have been working hard all my life but now I feel life doesn't worth it.
why my brain stucked i used to be very clever? is it temporary or permenant I don;t accept failure easily therefore I have always don' gave up.
If I move I need to settle somewhere I might not succeed?
I would like to ask that my questions and your answers should not be seen by others I will appreciate if this will be confidencials.
when you say therapist do you mean psychologist or psychiatrist.?
Do you think if I take 3 months off will it help me to take the decision?
Can I ask who is the moderator?