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Your self esteem takes a big hit when something like this happens. Sadly, we tend to degrade ourself, "what's wrong with me?" when something like this happens.
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I'm sorry for your struggle first of all- this is very difficult
I know,,she planned for that. and I don't know why are some ppl over there
who enjoys doing such thing
Be assured that this is more about where she's at in life- less about you as a good and desirable person- hard to not take it personally of course! It's normal that we ask "why" we all do when we are "rejected"
You think she planned for this?
I think So
I never said anything bad to her. I was the nicest person she could ever met :)
She started enjoying the art of hurting someone
what happen happen
we can not go back to the past
I want to find away
how I can ger her out of my brain and go back
live your life how I was
I think emotions and attractions just change- too quick sometimes. Most people do not set out to hurt others- they are thinking only of themself- and yes others get hurt. It's hard to let this go- do you think it's something you did and you want to correct it?
Maybe because I was so nice :)
I need to learn how be selfish
To get her out of your brain... Time for sure- also accepting that, of course you are hurt, continue to process and talk about it- allow yourself to work through the hurt. Yes- us nice people tend to get hurt yes! Sensitive is good, but yes we get hurt easier.
So what do you recommend of here?
A bit of selfish can protect us vs. "self less"
are there any supplements or some sort of things do that you suggest?
I think reaching out with your post is an excellent start- get affirmation and validation you are a good person- regardless of what she has done- not giving her the power to bring you down
To be honest when we are hurt in this way TIME is the best healer- along with support from friends and family.
Doing some journal writing can lessen the sting- get it out of your head.
Has this triggered something from the past- being hurt in some way?
just the fact
that my life
that was looking for was in roses
to good to be true
Believed and the noble things of humans
do not lie
do not steal
Focus on you for a time- what makes you happy? Strengthening your self worth. When we get out hopes up, and it doesn't work out OUCH!!
You will find that rose- it wasn't her.
that one day
I will me that girl
that she will be that picture that I drawn
when I was a child
you grew up
You figure out
is just a mirage
is more like jungle
and last thing you would expect
that you met
and there you go
to a 360 degrees
Going after sprtual meaning trying to see is there any reality behinf life
why are here
Do i come by choice
or just there no reality
there is jus caos
There is someone special out there for you- trust and have faith. We have dreams of what we want for our life- even as children. Reality is painful sometimes. Life is hard- for people- for sure. No not fair- but the hurt and struggle can make us stronger afterwards- you earn your "stripes". You thought this would be "it" huh- that this relationship maybe was the one, or felt good at first. When we are in the dark is when we are most enlightened. That comes later- as the hurt eases.
so what is your advice
When you get down on yourself- follow it up with something more encouraging- being self critical does us more damage than anyone can do to us.
Identify things that may bring you more pleasure in life- separate from a girl.
Put your energy into you becoming a stronger person- and a relationship complimenting you.
All right, I will consider all that
Learning to love and accept our self is most important- cheesy, I know, but oh so true!!
Identify your strengths- write them down- remind yourself of these often
Building from our strengths is a good place to start.
All,,I will do that :) It was nice chatting with you but I need to go get ready for work :) we will follow up
The good news is, you will begin to feel better- bad news- there is hurt throughout our life- no avoiding that. You are not alone- it's the human condition-
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Thank you for your post today- have a good day too