"Numbness" can result from years of unhappiness or abuse and simply trying to guard yourself from such incidents. This will with time wear off as you begin to move beyond this relationship and on to healthier choices. Just the fact that you will regain your independence alone will help you move past this stage. You have to find first your sense of security again. You can do this very successfully with therapy or just having a very strong support system. Your children can be part of that process because they too will need to heal. You have to mitigate any interactions between your children and your husband but that is possible. You have to be consistent. If you want your family to be in therapy together that is helpful too. Reach out for your supports and be diligent in maintaining the choice you have made. This is going to be a process and it starts simply with strength and honesty. Right now make sure of your choice and stand by it.
i dont have support network as friendships were not possible to maintain over last years what with the unpredictible nature of the now adult children. husband also isolated us , working long hours and not interested in social events except with family of origin and older children from first relationship, a lady who came out as gay and been in lesbian relationship for 15 yrs.feel alot of strange damage here. dont want to depend on or lean on family, please God i can lean on myself. any advice
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