Thank you for your reply.
It sounds like your 9 year old son has trouble remembering things, especially school tasks.
He has no medical condition. He is healthy.
His appetite is normal. He sleeps well. He wets his bed occasionally. His general mood is happy.
He doesn't seem to be depressed or oppositional based on your report.
He might have memory problems. Or, he might have Attention deficit disorder
). Indeed, children with ADD/ADHD exhibit disorganization, difficulty focusing tasks, and bed wetting.
I would advise you to take him to a child psychologist for assessment.
Getting an accurate diagnosis is important and a first step to treatment.
Even he may not have ADD/ADHD, he may need behavior therapy from a child psychologist to improve his memory around routines and schoolwork.
Perhaps, your son may benefit from working with a child psychologist or child psychotherapist providing behavior therapy weekly or bi-weekly. You may choose a child psychotherapist who is willing to work with him weekly or bi weekly so you can discuss any question/weekly progress with his therapist.
To find a Child Psychotherapist/Behavior specialist, you can call your insurance company and get a list of providers in your area.
Or ask his pediatrician for a referral to Child psychologist with the specialty.
Or, you can search a licensed CHILD psychologist or psychotherapist on internet- such as the PSYCHOLOGY TODAY website. Go to (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764) and enter your zip code and optional category of specialty such as Children. Read psychotherapists’ profile to see if he or she has the specialty.
You may also want to create your mental image of psychotherapist that you and he want to work with – Male or female? Old or young? To note, many therapists offer initial consultation for free. So you can see it as an informational meeting. You can ask any question.
Please let me know if you have more questions.