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I am so sorry for your difficult situation.
What were your son's circumstances before adoption?
DId he witness horrible events"
Was he abused?
Did his parents abandon him?
He was in an orphanage from birth to age two when I adopted him. He is a bright and overall "well adjusted" kid. He can do the work when inspired to do it and has a great memory. He is loving and affectionate when he is getting what he wants and/or is not being pushed to work on something he doesn't wan to do. He is helpful and loves to be engaged in conversation with adults and seeks approval and affirmation constantly
Where does he come from?
What were the circumstances that put him in the orphanage?
And was he treated well there?
He was given up at birth because of finances of the single birth mother
His care was interupted at year one
What do you mean by his care was interrupted at one year?
He changed orphanages, one closed, so his caregivers changed
He has some abandonment issues, he freaks out that I'm going to leave him if I go to the car before him when we are headed out
He will deliberatly make me late by ignoring me when I ask him to get ready and then scream that I shouldn't leave him
but we manage that fairly well, and I assure him I am his mother forever
Then abandonment is a bigger issue than ADHD (which may also be an issue).
Why would abandonment be an issue with refusing to do school work?
and being generally disruptive in class
lack of attention and focus on schoolwork
I'm sorry. I need to run to a meeting. I'll be back in 30-45 minutes.
Because he may have elements of Reactive Attachment Disorder which occurs when stable attachments cannot form because of change in his adoptive care. for one reason
I will switch you to Q & A and we can continue there later.
how does attachment issuesimpact classroom learning and focus? what is the treatment for RAD?
what are the other indicators for RAD?