I've started "no-contact" after a long time of trying to be friends with my ex (a little back story: after we broke up [she was the dumper], she told me that I was too important and that I was a huge safety valve for her, best friend blah blah. Anyway, I fell for it all hook, line, and sinker. This part is the very important part: we work together in a Residence Life department at a small college, so we have to collaborate and see each other frequently if not daily). After the initial "breakup" It wasn't very long and we were back to do all of the relationship "things" we'd done pre-breakup: dates, talking a lot, confiding in each other, sleeping together, texting, saying we love each other, etc. It wasn't until a few months ago that she finally said she didn't want to be intimate anymore but she still wanted to be close emotionally, that should've been it for me but I still couldn't let go. Then it started getting super frustrating, she still wanted to have our strong emotional bond but with NOTHING else, I couldn't take it. Also, I knew she'd met another man and was starting to date him...but she was still telling me all the things I wanted to here and openly admitted that she she didn't want me to let go. As with most of these stories, I could go on and on about the details of the last few months and how it's been hell, but I won't. Basically, I've told her how her behavior has been extremely confusing and hurtful while acknowledging that I wasn't letting go as much as I should (never mind the fact that she had and continues to have the same boyfriend the whole time she's been telling me she doesn't want me to let go). When she finally admitted that she was dating this guy, she told me I had every right to be angry at her for her behavior, which is nice for closure, I guess. It was then that I told her that she shouldn't text me at all, or stop by my office, or facebook me (I've blocked her and her boyfriend for the sake of my own sanity), or e-mail unless it's STRICTLY work related. I've done this very amicably and with a certain amount of control, but as you know, it's been so damn hard to see her and know that another guy now has her physical and emotional affections, while all the while she doesn't want me be out of her life. She's even said that I'm one of the only reasons she likes working where we work (another long story related to our new director). I'm pretty confused right now... I still find myself reaching out to her for help with work stuff, but it's so hard to how much I should talk about work stuff...mainly how I *feel* about work stuff, you know? So, my concern is this, how can no-contact work with an ex that is also your co-worker that you have to see and work with A LOT? I've been doing my homework, sticking to no-contact, trying to look for opportunities for personal development and just plain trying to accept that it's over, and have been professional at work; but it's so hard and I'm not sure how to process it. Also, I'm currently job searching and have six months left on my current contract.