i just got home from being at the hosp all day. i waited forvever for the sono and i told them my hi risk drs name.. they said hes here. hell see u. i said ok sounds good. they brought me in. and well drumroll please.
the babys 10lbs 13oz.
you heard me. i audibly groaned and the sono techs like oh crap. yeah.
she said stay here ill tell dr n youre here. ok. he came in and got a slightly smaller weight. he said well we have to do something about this. i said ok now what? he said oh honey youre having a c section. i said ok. im lying there thinking i did but really didnt want a c section. he said the biggest he delivered was 12lbs. i said do you think hes 12 lbs? he said well were off by 1lb either way - more or less...
so i said yeah... i barely could see him sitting and i had tears rolling down my face, he said what? n i said im embarassed. i feel like a circus freak. and he said liz you didnt do anything wrong. i said but it just sounds gross and undignified and unladylike. i actually thought about lying on the kids announcement. like obviously putting him up there but not 11lbs. like saying 9lb 12 oz. just anything less than 10lbs.
am i crazy?
he said the babys heart is strong but fast and he wanted to monitor me. the hr was 180. and the baby was super upset. he moved more than he has in days and i felt like he was having a temper tantrum in there. i calmed him and the dr said oh you already have a way with him. i said i guess. i dont fee very attached to tell you the truth. i dont know why. i just feel like get out. like im sick of this.
i patted my belly and told the baby its ok the dr was just checking us both and hell be seeing me and kate and daddy soon.
the hi risk asked me how much rob weighed and his height and mine and i said really my father is 6ft 6.. and hes nodding along n then looked up. and he said youre not with this family genetics having a small baby. and boys weigh more and the 2nd always is more..
he said im calling dr k. keep calming the baby.
meanwhile this am at 7am my mil called t tell me my fil was in the hosp. she took him overnight. he was acting confused and weak and urinating on himself. he had chills and then at the hosp a fever. i said it sounds like he has a uti.. she said yeah he does. they gave him iv abx and wanted to d/c him but my mil refused to take him home. said hes too weak.
so she left him at 430am to come home to watch kids. (not my daughter..) and he was in the er hallway. ok so i get there for 10am, but not done with my appt til 1pm. so i find him in the hallway. still no bed.
so i speak with him for a few minutes and he asks me to call his wife. so i do. she says well are they going to keep him in the hallway til he leaves? so i said well its really busy and theres alot of pts in the hallway and his iv abx are either 1x day or 2x as i looked at the bag, she tells me they couldnt catheter him they said his penis is too tight. and he keeps saying penis. so i said ok ok, i get it. so i tell her he probably needs to get a turp done, and im trying to explain it, shes busy with kids, so im like ok, whatever. he then tells me he has a catheter in. so i look, see the bag, but dont check to see its not in. its an external catheter. so his nurse comes by and shes like r u a nurse? and i say yes, and he tells her im his grandaughter and im about to have a baby. so i say im his daughter in law and im preg not laboring.
either way he keeps talking about defecating but i dont know why, and i finally figure out that he needs to go to the bathroom. i ask the nurse to help me and while were getting him out of bed - he has his hand on the nurses ass and his fingers are in the crack of her ass i swear. we get him in the wheelchair and shes beet red (and seems like a younger newer nurse and shes got def a nice figure and shes black..) we get him to the bathroom and i was like you ok? shes like i cant believe it, and i said better you than me honey. i said he always used to do that bullshit to me. her eyes are wide and she gets behind the nurses station and i said there shud be f**king hazard pay in this job and another nurse chimes in and hears what happened and shes like oh yeah.... and we agree men are animals. (sorry.) but how many women have done that to you unsolicited? exactly.
i got stupid back to bed and fixed him up , and he starts telling the nurse that my daughter talks non stop, shell chew you ear off.. and im giving him the evil eye he keeps saying how shes bossy etc.. and i mean she is sometimes but its like here mommy put it here. i help you. so i finally say paul shes 2. whats your excuse? the nurse and the nurses aide again are dying...
meanwhile i had to hear him say defecation, penis, gynecologist, and saw his penis and he sexually assaulted the nurse, plus insulted my daughter. so i decided im getting the hell out of here. and i left.
so the obs office called and said im going for my c section thur at 830pm. i have to be there at 430pm and have to be on alert they can call n tell me to come earlier at anytime so i have to be ready to leave.
i had the thought of rob going to work since he only gets 3 days off. but he said no, he doesnt want to go to work and then have to race back, he said we can clean up here and if they call earlier than itll be earlier. i said i guess... beggars cant be choosers...
anyway i cant eat all day. i said ok. but im eating in the am. f**k that.
as far as my mom, shes going to watch kate - she thinks rob shud work, and i felt wishy washy about it thinking i want himto be with me just to calm me, but then he said hes staying home n she didnt argue it any further. he said we can clean n do stuff. i said ok. geez im having surgery i still gotta clean. theres no days off steve really.
will i ever catch up and have a clean house and 2 clean happy not sick children and enjoy a day? wtf?
so my moms going to have kate overnight and rob can get her the next day to see me and the baby..
and i try not to challenge my mom as theres no point as you cant get thru to her. i let her scream and just said i didnt know, i didnt hear, etc. and then finally im sorry. i did say, its not all about me - im sorry he said that.. and she just whipped further and further into a frenzy.
i used to be more argumentative thinking i could make her see my side. and ive tried to do what my bro does which is he basically doesnt get upset and answers her n he can diffuse her. it doesnt work for me. hes also done the yeah whatever mom thing and walked away and she doesnt stay mad at him.
my mom can stay mad at me and my dad for eons.
my mom found out about her mother cheating on her father ... i mean i found out my dad was cheating but i was 22 or something. it bothered me but i was more upset she was my age, i was hoping hed be with a nice lady who cud be my not so evil stepmother and treat him nice too.
i used to say that all the time. that i hoped my dad would meet someone and be happy. i guess thats messed up, but thats how i felt.
so you saw what a knish is? you guys coming to see the museums? the christmas tree? eat a knish and have my rice pudding? brownies? meatballs?
it really would be fun. you could drive thru staten island to avoid manhatten driving to come to long island.........