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It sounds like your daughter has difficulty with boundaries. You can still offer them to her even at her age. Sometimes people don't really see how abrasive they are. Ignoring this behavior does not work. It does allow you to not feed into the behavior so that she doesn't have that attention seeking effect on you. What you shouldn't do is walk on egg shells. She has to know that when she is acting badly others don't have to tip toe around her. I would confront this head on but orchestrate your comments at just the right time. Be firm but not angry. If you consistently challenge her in a calm and collected tone you will see a change. You can't however do that by allowing her to get over. You have to assertive and direct. When you address this directly even in front of others she won't be allowed to continue with her bad behavior. You want to set a precedent right now that you will back down. Don't let her continue to intimidate others or you.
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