Hello, I am here for you and am happy to respond. Give me a moment to carefully read over and consider your question.
Sorry to hear that you have been struggling with depression. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have worked with clients with relationship issues for 20 years. Tell me the issues in the relationship about which you need advice.
Hi, I am reading your response now.
Do you love her?
I understand. Are you in therapy?
In my professional opinion, you need to be in therapy. I would not propose yet. You need to work through your own commitment issues first. Therapy would also greatly help with your depression.
By therapy, I mean psychotherapy. Would you like me to recommend therapists for you?
No, I don't think proposing will help right now. You need to see someone in person. What is your city and zip code?
Oh, sorry, I see you are in Ireland. Just a moment and I will get you some information.
http://www.psychotherapy-ireland.com/ You may search for therapists where you live on this site. Yes, fear of commitment is very common. And you do not want to propose simply to make your friends approve. You need to propose when you are ready.
Well, usually these commitment stem from our childhoods. Therapy can help you work through them so that they do not impact you current relationships.
That is hard to say, but now more than a few months.
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