It has only recently been brought to my attention, last night. I am in my 5th marriage. The first 2 were beaters and the fathers of my 2 daughters, one from each husband. I was affectionate, as I recall, before the fighting and beatings. I lived as a single mother for 11 years. Then I met my third husband, he was 10 years my senior. When he tried to dominate me, I ended that marriage only after 3 years. The fourth marriage was to a man who pretended to be a christian when in reality, he was an abuser.of drugs and alcohol. That marriage lasted 5 years. My current husband is a good man but I believe he suffers from insecurities I do not understand.
He has self esteem issues. He has not asked me to be more affection from me but he responds to affection from other women. I went thru menopause and lost my sex drive. Although we had sex it was not often enough for him. For 7 months he sought out a sexual relationships with other women (without my knowledge). He started a sexual relationship with our next door neighbor. They met in our home while I was at work. This went on for 5 months until I discovered the affair.We have decided to work out the problem and stay together. I still have trust issues with him to this day. The affair was this year May thru Sept. I love my husband and want to work thru this.
The lack of funds keeps me from going to a psychotherapist and my husband refuses to go to counseling. I would really like you to help me with this if you can.