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He has always tried to prove he has been faithful ever since his affair. My last conversation with him, he was crying on the phone. He said he does miss me, he's just not sure if I have changed. He said he didn't think that people change. So does that mean HE can't change, when he made that comment to me? My friends tell me I shouldn't fly all the way across the world to be with him, when he was the one that created the lack of trust. My sister says we need this time alone. Am I showing that I'm weak or desperate for him to stay with me by going or does going show him that I AM willing to fly across the world for him and be with him? I'm torn on what to do. I know he's is just as lonely as I am. At least that's what I'm supposed to believe, if I'm supposed to be trusting him right?
This is what makes me question me flying to see him. I don't know if it will hurt the marriage by not going because he made the decision in getting the ticket for me, which he didn't have to do. Maybe going there and discussing our marriage on neutral ground, where there's nobody or nothing to interrupt us? What would you do? Do I send an email (only way I can communicate, except when and if he calls) asking him if this means that he didn't change, since he said it himself? Or wait to ask in person?
Thank you so much for the advise. I think going will help clarify things for both of us. I think he's been gone for so long, he's forgotten the good in our relationship too.