I've been married to my husband for 21 years. He had 2 affairs 10 years ago and that really took away any trust I had in him. He begged and pleaded to take him back and I did
. It's 10 years later and 3 months ago, out of the blue he told me he can't take my questioning him all the time and tired of having to answer to me. He said he wanted to call our marriage quits. In his argument for splitting, he said he gave me 10 years to get over the affairs and it's 10 years now. I must say it was an eye opener that even though I agreed to let him back into my life, I never really gave him a chance. Even though we moved to different states because of my insecurities, thinking he was always looking for the next person to cheat on me with. When my husband pointed out all the things that I''ve done over the past 10 years (not trusting him ever, always questioning him, accusing him of being with someone when, when I really didn't have proof, getting on him about calling when he is going to be late. I realized, for the past 10 years I haven't been treating him like my partner, but my prisoner. Wh decided to talk about his feelings and mine and I came to the conclusion that he was leaving because of me. There wasn't any kids to keep him from leaving, they are grown now. So, we decided to give it another try, so I thought. 2 months ago my husband went on a business trip (which he has done before) but was supposed to be gone for 3 weeks. He first would call, skype and respond to my emails, then the communication would go from 2x a day to not hearing from him in 3-4 days. He tells me he decided to take this assignment because it wouldn't impact us financially He said this was his way of separating from me to think about what he wants from his life. If he wants to stay married or be alone. 5 days ago he bought me a ticket to fly to Taiwan to be with him 2 weeks. When I asked him if he got the ticket because I asked or if it was because he wanted to see me, he said, "I got the ticket, you didn't make me do anything". My question is, it's been 2 days since our last conversation, should I go? I feel like he's trying to figure out if he should stay with me, after my visit. By the way, he said he is supposed to come back when I do, but he's said he's coming home 3 or 4 times before. Should I show him how much I love him and how sorry I am for not trying to trust him, when I was the one that said yes, to him coming back home?