Hello, I'd like to help you with your question. If you can post your question, I will see if I can be of assistance. I will be away for a bit this morning but will get back to you as soon as I am back in.
Thanks...sorry about the wait.
This involves a relationship pattern I've been in for a while.
For as long as I can remember, I've been attracted to particular traits in women that I go out with. I'm usually partial to women a bit on the curvy side (not obese though) that are open to some erotic experimentation as well as being fairly romantic.
Being an (amateur) artist, I enjoy drawing them and creating images of all kinds that highlight their "junk in the trunk" as well as some imaginative erotic scenarios.
The thing is, I believe these tendencies limit the relationship and keep things stuck on some superficial qualities. Another problem is that physically speaking, It's tough for me to become (or stay) intimate with women who don't have this callipygian (funny word - think J Lopez) quality.
Is this something I should just resign myself too?...or should I really try to work at overcoming this? ( I did try a while back...went back to the old habits before too long)
Thanks & Best,
Thanks for the response....just two quick things.
Would a typical therapist or a sex therapist be the best choice to work on this?
Also, is this a problem you've seen before?....to the point of needing this trait to function intimately?
Yes it is an issue I have seen before and it is not uncommon.
A sex therapist might be the best option though the basic issue may not need the focus of a sex therapist. By that I mean that the reason you are feeling this way may have to do with past pain and not so much about sex as just about the pain itself. So based on what you feel might be at the root of this issue, you can pick the appropriate type of therapist from there.