You are experiencing the result of betrayal and this can be quite difficult. What he did is what we in this field call an emotional affair. This is just as devastating as an actual affair because trust is damaged beyond repair unless this is addressed. I would strongly urge you to see a marriage counselor with him so that you can be heard. Sometimes the partner's needs are over and above your own and this causes you to not find closure. This will also give you an idea if he is truly willing to resolve this. You can't ignore something and hope it goes away and he needs to understand that. Something causes a man to look elsewhere and he needs to recognize what this is. Find an outlet to be heard and go on from there. Although you have done this before problems arise and they have to be addressed. There is never too much help. You can also use letter writing to let him know how hurt you are.
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