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I am sorry to hear about this problem.
I have worked with children for 35 years and it sounds like your niece is having a stress related reaction which is probably the result of what is happening in the family.
I am going to give you some helpful tips and links to websites that you can read and use to help your niece deal with stress and build stronger coping mechanisms:
To adults, childhood can seem like a carefree time. But kids still experience stress. Things like school and social life can sometimes create pressures that can feel overwhelming for kids. As a parent, you can't protect your kids from stress — but you can help them develop healthy ways to cope with stress and solve everyday problems.
Tips to Reduce Stress:
1. Help children put words to their feelings. Ask them if they feel nervous, scared, or worried. Ask them what is making them feel that way.
2. Acknowledge your child’s feelings and encourage the use of positive statements. Often children do not understand the outcome of an action or change. Instead of realizing their favorite teacher will be back tomorrow..they might think she is gone forever. Create positive statements for the situation.
“I am safe. My substitute teacher is fun. My teacher will be back soon.”
3. Introduce stress management techniques to children. Parents and teachers can easily teach and use techniques like breathing, positive statements, and visualizing on a regular basis. Lesson Plans are available.
4. Establish a bedtime routine that helps kids relax. Soothing music or relaxing stories. Indigo Dreams: Kids Relaxation Music promotes sleep and relaxation.
5. Spend reassuring quality time with children. Parents and teachers can laugh and play together. Singing songs like The More We Get Together, This Is The Way We Laugh And Play and If You’re Happy And You Know It can be a liberating and fun stress reliever that you and your children can enjoy together.
Review this information and feel free to ask more questions and I will be happy to respond.
my sister spends a lot of one on one time with her
she will be 10 in Feb and right now is screaming about how angry she is because my sister asked her to put the clean silverware away
and screaming ends in crying
at school she is really good
her teachers always tell us what a good student sh eis and how polite and well mannered she is
This could also indicate depression. Children act out in anger when they are depressed or sad. At this age- they do not have the cognitive ability to say "I'm sad" or "depressed" thus the sadness is expressed in anger followed by the tears
Depression is often regarded as anger turned inward.
The symptoms of depression in children vary. It is often undiagnosed and untreated because they are passed off as normal emotional and psychological changes that occur during growth. Early medical studies focused on "masked" depression, where a child's depressed mood was evidenced by acting out or angry behavior. While this does occur, particularly in younger children, many children display sadness or low mood similar to adults who are depressed. The primary symptoms of depression revolve around sadness, a feeling of hopelessness, and mood changes.
Signs and symptoms of depression in children include:
See more here about childhood depression:
If you think that your niece is depressed- it may be wise to discuss this with her Pediatrician who can evaluate this and refer her for counseling is needed.
If you have additional feedback or questions- feel free to ask- I am happy to help.
Kindest regard's, Bill