Hello, I am here for you and am happy to respond. Give me a moment to carefully read over and consider your question.
Sorry to hear this. Is your grandson crying when you keep him?
He cries when his parents leave him, and he is very frantic when he wakes up from a nap. At that point,there is nothing that I can do to help soothe him. Perhaps if the parents, could tell him where they were going and when they will be back. The parents are not open to my suggestions. I don't want to do it anymore... I know that if they had a different care taker, the same scenario would take place. I really want to tell them that I can't do it anymore.
I certainly understand. You have to take care of yourself. You can been of now help to anyone if you get stressed out to the point of not being able to take it anymore. Are you ready right now to tell them you cannot keep him?
Yes, but in my heart, I feel that I need to give them a couple of weeks What do you think?
Well, how are you going to get through the next two weeks emotionally?
I will let him cry it out, and remain nuetral to his crying. I will always talk kindly to him, and more importantly, i will try not to react to the mother but just respond in a kind way to Ben.
When the eight year old comes home from school, his mother always yells at him which drives me crazy. I just can't stand to be around the mother. Help
That sounds perfect.
Do you keep the 8 year old too?
Yes, after school. I really don't like the mother. I am just being tolerant. With that being said,
I want out, but they will completely overact. Then I won't be in the picture with my grandkids,
Well, I don't like either! Mother's should not yell at their children!
You need to keep focused on your goal of being a loving, calm, healthy presense in your grandchildren's lives. You cannot change your daughter-in-law's behavior. Do you know the Serenity Prayer?
You seem to have gone offline. In case you do not know it, I will type the Serenity Prayer below for you. It is a wonderful prayer, whether you are religious or not. It is used in AA, but is applicable in any difficult life situation. I truly believe it can help upon.
Grant me the Wisdom to Change the Things I Can
Sorry, let me start over
Grant met the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change
The Courage to Change the Things I Can
And the Wisdom to Know the Difference
If you can say this to yourself in the most trying times, it will keep you focused and more calm. I hope this helps. Chat back if you need anything further. I am leaving the site for the evening, but will reply to you tomorrow. Have a good night, Eleanor