Thank you very much for your time to answer my question, can you offer any techniques on positive thinking. I'm offshore and have a lot of time to reflect on things and i can be my own worst enemy
Sure I would be happy to help. One of the first steps to take in changing your thinking is to pay attention to your inner self talk. That sounds a bit odd, but by paying attention to what you say to yourself and about your world, you can pinpoint where the problem areas are. For example, if you typically react to a compliment by saying, “That is not true. I’m a loser”, then you know you have a poor self image. By identifying these issues, you will know what to work on. The next step is to replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. It helps some people to write down all the positive thoughts about yourself and your life that you can think of. That way, when you have a negative thought, you can turn to the list rather than try to come up with a positive thought to counteract the negative one. And it helps to read the list as often as possible to reinforce these thoughts.Another step to take, especially if you are having trouble thinking in a positive way, is to ask people who know you to help you make a list of good qualities about you. Another perspective often helps you see things you miss about who you really are. Also, consider learning as much as you can about positive thinking. Here are some resources to get you started:http://psychology.about.com/od/PositivePsychology/a/how-to-become-a-positive-thinker.htmThe Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent PealeEveryday Positive Thinking by Louise HayThe Path to Success is Paved with Positive Thinking: How to Live a Joy-filled Life and Make Your Dreams Come True by Wally AmosKate
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Having degrees in these areas,were there any insightful quotes or phrases that encouraged you achieve your goals? I know,its completely stupid, it was a short encounter with the girl,and I've had many relationships but she really got to me and i don't know why....
Not stupid at all. I encourage you to make a list of inspirational quotes that you can look at to help you. Here are some sites to help you:http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_inspirational.html http://www.lifed.com/top-100-inspirational-quotes-to-live-by Here are a few others that may help:"The only source of knowledge is experience" Albert Einstein Sometimes we need to forget some people from out past because of one simple reason: They just don't belong in our future.Unknown quotes Kate
Those are brilliant, thank you so much. I particularly like that last one. I appreciate you answering my questions, there's not really anyone i can talk to out here about that sort of thing, it's all very 'macho'. I've no problem wearing my heart on my sleeve, but to have 3 weeks of older guys ripping on you can take its toll. Is there anything other advice you can offer? You've really helped me out and i do appreciate it
Most of all, take care of yourself and don't be too hard on yourself. You need time to work this out so it doesn't bother you anymore. And do as much self help as you can. Learning is always helpful and can get you to where you want to be.
Thank you kate
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