Thank you Kate. I'm definitely an introvert, and I also have agoraphobia with phobias. I can tell the difference between my introvert need to be alone, which feels good and does recharge me, and the agoraphobia, which feels fearful.
I've already told my friends the things you suggest in your reply, and have come to understand that my needs are important and need to be respected too. I wish there was something more I could do, but I see that's not possible, and it's sad to know that.
It seems like the answer to any of the problems in my life has always been that I have to learn to live with things as they are, which is frustrating to accept and why I ask for help now and then. This isn't a reflection on your answers to me, which I know were the best that could possibly be given to my short questions. It's more of a reflection on life in general. At least it's good to know that I've been handling this current situation as well as possible.
Thanks again for your advice.
You are very welcome!
I understand your frustration. It is difficult to find that balance so you and everyone else is happy with the results. With the situation as it is, you really have just a few choices- do what your friends need, leaving you with sacrificing your own needs; do what you need to do and sacrifice your friendships or find a balance. Trying to make everyone happy is difficult at best. But I believe you are doing a good job making it work. The key is to look at it as you doing your best and try not to feel guilty about it. Changing those thoughts can make a lot of difference.