Kate - Thank you for helping me with my previous question. I have a related question that I'd like your advice about too. I'm a creative person and need a lot of time to myself to generate and then gather my ideas into workable projects. This need to be alone is huge. I work at home and could go for weeks (yes, weeks) without seeing or talking to anyone and be perfectly happy, productive, and engaged with my work.
My question is about my two dear friends who I want to keep close. It's hard for me to know what kind of time they need from me when I don't feel an equal need for time with them.
I love them both, and my love doesn't fade when I'm not in contact with them, and I can pick up right where we left off without a hitch. They can't do this, and it's already strained one relationship nearly to the breaking point. If I don't have enough alone time, though, I get painfully anxious, my agoraphobia
and phone phobia (and driving phobia) flare, and eventually I get terribly depressed.
It feels as though I'm always trying to be somebody I really can't be for my friends, and I always fail and feel miserable about it. Can you give me some suggestions about how to handle my own privacy needs and my friend's need for close time with me. I'm very frustrated and starting to feel as though they want more from me than I'm able to give.
Thank you again for your time.