Yes, he is overworked at his job. He works 55 + hours a week and he claims he is very tired. He was promoted last year to a more sr. level and there is alot expected of him. But I still don't think that is reason to get fresh with me. I get tired too. I just tell him I am tired and don't want to talk at the moment. I have a very even tempurement and I am very easy to get along with. But when I get pushed too far, I just leave the situation. I almost left the other night to go to a hotel, just to leave for a few days, not sure if this is a good idea. Seems like I am running away, and I don't want to do that. I do love him very much....but I am not going to take being spoken to like this.
You think leaving for a few days may be beneficial?
I know this will anger him more and then it will take time for him to get over it. He can be immature like this. My biggest fear is he'll enjoy my being gone. I guess better to find out now than many years later. (BTW, I am his third wife) This may be a clue too.
Could the change towards me mean he's possibly having an affair?
No, I have asked him and he is not a liar. But it feels like he's testing me, to see how much I will take. Sometimes, he's completey checked out mentally. Is this because he is a man or is it because he just can't deal with things?
I think alot of it is due to stress also. But if he speaks badly to me again, I am definitely going to a hotel for 2-3 days.
Thank you and have a great day