I keep telling myself she knows best but I don't feel ready to move on so maybe I do need to see someone else. I feel hurt that she won't see this out with me but I also have really been a challenge.
I blame myself for creating the situation.
Do you think I should continue with another therapist?
If you leave this therapist still feeling that you have more to talk about, then yes, it would be a good idea to see someone else. Therapy is only done when you don't feel you have anything left to talk about with your therapist.
I forgot to mentioned my therapist said that she couldn't discuss the my interest in her etc as it invloves her private life - do you agree or is she not dealing with the transference issues?
She can talk with you about how you feel which does not involve discussing her personal life. At this point, she may not be aware of the transference or she may be and is not dealing with it for some reason. Talking with her about it can clarify which one it is and therefore how you should proceed.