Hello! Please remember that my response is for information only, we are not establishing a therapeutic relationship.
I will give you two possibilities that may explain the root of your difficulties.
1. Perhaps you never learned organizational skills as a child. As children, we get certain "skills" from significant adults in our lives (often parents) --but in some cases these skills are not taught well or at all. Organization is just one example of many, many things that people can not get from their parents, teachers, etc for a variety of reasons. If this is indeed the case, then you can learn the skills with help and coaching.
2. What you describe is also consistent with Attention Deficit Disorder
. People with ADD
have tremendous difficulty organizing things, can get overwhelmed easily when faced with multiple tasks. The example of not knowing where to start with the garage is a perfect one for ADD --the task looks just too overwhelming, it's difficult to break down into small pieces, and then you just don't know what to do but give up and walk away.
People with ADD can often feel "stupid," because there's the false perception that you ought to know what to do and automatically be able to do it. However, people without ADD more naturally use organizational skills such as labeling dresser drawers --without feeling stupid!
I cannot diagnose you with ADD over the internet, but you can get an evaluation to see if you have it.
The most efficient way to diagnose ADD is through the use of a QUEEG --done by Professionals who use Neurofeedback
Here is an article explaining the use of the QUEEG for diagnosing ADD:
And you can read about neurofeedback here:
Above all --don't beat yourself up! Whether or not you have ADD, you can get help to increase your organizational skills.