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Dear XXXXX,I will opt out of this conversation and ask you to be transferred to a woman counselor. I have given you valid information based on researched and known knowledge. If you wish to give me positive feedback for my effort, I would be most grateful, as this is my livelihood. Thank you so much.Either way, I shall opt out and get you to a female counselor, and forward this to the best one currently online. I wish you great success.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
hello, I'm 45 and have been crossdressing since 5. I Love to crossdress in pantyhose extra firm control high waiste long leg and open bottom girdles, and high heels and corsets, skirts and tight dresses. When i saw my mom dress in her girdles it was lave at first sight, and I'v never looked back. today I have over 100+ girdles to my name. I have natural curves and my girdles really bring them out. Everyone in my family wants me to quite, but I cant and wont, it pretty much is a way of life for me! Sometimes when I'm dressed up around them, certain family members will pull my dress up just to see what girdle I'm wearing. I think their jealous. What do you think? should I even try to stop for as long as I've been doing this, or should I become a shemale or transexual.
Good to hear back from you. We are born with, come into this world with, our sexual identity and orientation; it is not something we can change. Trying to deny or change our sexual selves results in great psychological harm, sometimes even suicide. I encourage you to enter therapy to explore your gender identity issues. You may very likely be a transgendered person. You actually stated in your question that you are female, which tells me that you consider yourself female. I am going to paste in some resources for you the end of my answer. Let me know if you need anything further. If you are satisfied with my answer, please give me a positive rating and click on submit. I wish you all the best in discovery and blessing your true self in therapy, take care, Eleanor
Hi, Eleanor, actually I am male-sorry for the confusion. I like living as a woman. I dont wear pants anymore just tight skirts and dresses. I am very passable, I have boobs like Dolly Parton and hips like Mae West. I believe this all started out as girdle fetish for me and has taken over me. I am obessed with foundation garments and even wear them to bed! Is all this ok since I'm very passable as a woman-no hormones just breast forms but my hips are natural but so feminine and curvy, my family thinks I'm on hormones.
I have tried to stop many times in the past by purging but the urgrs are to great. I like to look beautiful and curvacious. very shapely legs with high heels on. I'm not gay but love dressing as a woman and looking pretty. Should I just keep going? I want to since I cant seem to stop. When I did I was Very Depressed. I work with other women at a womans boutique. They
have embraced it since I'm so passable, and they love my wardrobe. I still
dress this way when at my parents for the holidays. It causes problems because I'm a guy who has better curves than any woman in my family. Can I get by without the counseling?
If you are happy with your life the way it is now, then, of course, it is perfectly okay for you to keep going like this. And yes, you can get by without counseling. The question is do you want to keep "getting by" or do you want a fuller life. If you want the latter, then therapy is the answer. Remember that transgendered people do not have to be gay as well. Hope this helps, Eleanor
Is the therapy to determine if I could have a fuller life as a woman with srs,or is it to get me to quit being a transvestite. I have heard that there is no cure for this. What should I do since I.ve been doing this for so long? I go to bed dressed as a woman just so I can wear foundation garments 24/7. What do you think about this.
Hello again, what steps do I need to consider in trying to decide if I want to be a transgendered woman, or a male crossdresser?
Hi again. The first step would be extensive, prolonged, indepth psychotherapy with a therapists who works with sexual identity issues. Then, if in therapy you discover that you are transgendered, an evaluation by a psychiatrist would be required before proceeding with any hormonal treatments or surgery to physically become a woman. Hope this clarifies things for you. If you have no further questions, I would very much appreciate your submitting a positive rating for my work with you. I wish you all the best, XXXXX XXXXX Eleanor
Hi Eleanor, what do you think has made me become so addicted to crossdressing? Do you think all my years of wearing tight girdles and corsets has given me such a curvacious figure. I've prayed every night for my hips to widen and curve out and it looks so feminine people think I'm on hormones already but I'm not. Do you think the Lord has answered my prayers and that these are signs to become a fulltime woman?
Your addiction to crossdressing is probably a defense against fully embracing your true sexual identity; I believe I mentioned this earlier. Yes, the girdles and corsets could certainly have molded your figure through the years. I think that your are being spiritually called to become who you really are in the world.
Dear Eleanor thankyou so much for time and talents! Would you like anymore information about my lifestyle or do you have any questions you'd like to ask me?
Eleanor, does my lifestyle mean I have a mental illness, and do you think this has all happened to me because of a girdle fetish?
Hi Eleanor , I had triple d breast implants put in! These are fabulous! No need for hip implants I have natural curves suported by my girdles. I still have my male parts and plan on keeping them for now. The Drs. are amazed by my curvacious figure. I wish now I would have done this right out of college. Do you think I should become a full woman?
Hi Eleanor, How do you think I should break this news to my parents and siblings, they have not been very supportive of me through any of this. Should I surprise them with it?
Hi Eleanor, I'm now on hormone therapy and my curves are even more enhanced, abd my skin is very soft. From the waiste up I look like Dolly Parton and from the waiste down I look like Mae West! I spend a lot of time in front of the mirror admiring my sexy curves. I plan to start entering transvestite beauty pageants as well as opening my own store for vintage girdles and foundation garments-solong as I can pull myself away from the mirror, its very sexually arousing to me do to my results. I now have to wear custome fitted dresses and skirts do to my enhaced curves! This is a dream come true and should win me many pageants!
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