Seeking expert counseling is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective.
Cultural acceptance of transvestism in this country has greatly reduced the social pressure on those who have this paraphilia. There is no criminal behavior involved and transvestites do not force others to bend to their will. Because of this social tolerance and acceptance, there are not many people who seek to change their behavior. you are probably less visible than a male who does the same, because the female wardrobe allows much more flexibility.
Many years ago, aversion therapy in the form of electric shocks were the treatment of choice, and they did
Most transvestites are able to function in society, have normal sexual relationships in culturally accepted circles, and can lead a normal life. As a female who cross-dressed, Another treatment that has been used is called orgasmic reorientation, training individuals to respond sexually to culturally appropriate stimuli. This treatment has little success.
Most individuals with transvestic fetishism do not desire to change, and few respond to treatment, even when the stakes were high (such as they had to change or lose their marriage).
The best alternative would be to find a hypnotherapist who works with addictions or phobia and undergo the therapy. That is the best chance of changing your behavior.
The other is to work with a psychotherapist who uses cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and learn either to change your behavior or to accept how you are and lose or reduce your anxiety
I wish you great success in moving forward with our life.
Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC