Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but
I am very sorry to know about this challenging situation, perhaps overwhelming for most people in your shoes.
It is never unreasonable to not want to be forced to do something you do not want to do, even more if it is about relationships. A decision like this should be totally yours, depending on your own feelings and what you are truly willing to afford. You grieved during your childhood the need of your parents' marriage and family disruption because of this other person, and recently just had another significant loss in your life. Thus the situation you depict is very painful for most people facing it, and it would be totally unfair for you not to be truthful and caring towards yourself in order to effectively cope,heal and move on with your life.
It is also true that you deserve and have the right to continue to share with your father, and that if his present choices and life changes represent a limitation between you, both need to respect and acknowledge it. You and your brother are facing a truly painful experience when finding yourselves, your relationship and plans totally undermined y your father's decision. It is obvious you feel hurt and for very good reason.
Please be totally truthful towards yourself, assessing what you truly want and are willing to afford around this situation, because only you know your feelings and how tough it is and will be for you to cope and come to terms with this dramatic changes in your lives.
Does it make sense?
Yes & thank you. Your last sentence ... " assessing what you truly are willing to afford around this situation ..." was very helpful!
You're very welcome.
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