Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I have reviewed your previous chat information so I understand the background.
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Having worked with couples for 35 years, I am going to be direct with you about this as it is only fair to you.
Understanding that there is a 15 year difference in your relationship and seeing that it has progressed to a point :
-where your needs are not being me -
-seeing that you have discovered sexting and that he does this in your presence obviously without regard to your feelings
I am inclined to say (without having the benefit of know either of you) that this relationship is slowly deteriorating and your friend is acting out as many men do in effort to avoid losing out on what appears to be his ability to take
advantage of you .
This is a relationship where geography has kept a comfortable distance for this man who is clearly taking advantage of you -- is an emotional infidel and perhaps sexual. You don't know - however- he may be having sex with other women- he obviously has no interest in meeting your sexual interest so you have to ask yourself why do I stay?
I can tell you based on experience that if there are these problems in a long distance relationship- they will only get worse when you get closer geographically.......and all of a sudden out of the blue- there will be a cut- off and you will find yourself without a relationship.
If this person had genuine interest in you and your feelings- you would not be asking this question. You would feel it and know that the relationship is right.