My younger sister is 33 years old. I am 38. After many years of not seeing each other, she decided to relocate to my town to be closer to family. Soon after that, she became lethargic, slept all the time, neglected her children and household chores, etc. Eventually, she was admitted to a mental health facility and diagnosed as bipolar. In addtion to the above, she began to verybally, mentally and physically abuse me. She even mstreated my 11 year old son. Evventually, she began to destroy my property (cigarette burns on my favorite blankets and even on my sofa. The ultimate was when she urinated on my sectional. Not just a little bit, but a complete, full emptying of her bladder.) She also had her boyfriend to touch me in private areas of my body during an evening when I had invited them over for a meal. She was there in my home when he did this. Her response was to put him out of her home for a nite, but the next day he was right back there with her and her two children (11 and 12) who are not his natural children. My question is this: Are these symptoms more than just bipolar? It weighs heavy on my heart especially since I'm still left with the pissed on sectional which I cannot financially replace. I have spoken with other mental health professionals but they have only advised me tha she is a very, very, very sick person. For my own sanity and peace of mind, I need to know the truth behind her actions? How sick is very, very, very sick under the circumstances that I have expounded upon? What would the diagnosis be of someone displaying these symptoms?
Hello, thanks for responding. It took me quite awhile to find your response on another page. Her explanation for urinating on the sofa was she started choking and coughing. When she realized she needed to urinate, she just sat there and let it happen. Yes, she does abuse alcohol and drugs. No, she did not give me a genuine apology. And she hasn't tried to reach out to me to make amends since she moved in November. Generally, her apologize are meaningless. She admits to lying to get whatever she wants. She will say whatever is necessary to get what she wants. She has apologized many times during the time she was here but her actions do not change to demonstrate true remorse. When I confront her about her actions (which are repeated over and over, she acts shocked like we have never this conversation before. She will also mention a situation/conversation incorrectly....saying I said things I didn't say...rememberng the encounter differently from the way it occurred.