Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
You have been through a lot and you have done a good job managing it all and now you can see how it is all coming to the surface for you.
The drinking has been to help self soothe but as you can see it will not help you in the long-run.
Would you be willing to get some counseling locally? Coming here is a great start to reaching out and I am glad you have.
You have a lot of feelings inside you that need the safe place to process it all so you can now live and feel free and happy.
I will wait for you to come online so we can chat and I can be of support.
It is hard to see out of the tunnel when you try to do it alone...getting that support will lend itself to you feeling some hope.
You have done great things and bringing up your children when their mother left is beyond wonderful....now you deserve to be free and happy.
Do you have the desire to be seen by someone so you can get that support that you deserve?
All those years taking care of the kids you got lost in it all...time to regain your sense of self.
not at all. you love deeply and clearly you were very hurt by her leaving.
I think that harsh judgment of yourself is also making things so tough for you.
Please go easy on yourself...the good news is that you can love and have loved deeply and unfortunately it was not forever with this woman.
but you can be strong again and love yourself once again without the harsh criticism.
not every time no! But closing your heart and locking yourself from the world is just as painful as risking it
You are a loving man...that is clear, but now we need to have some self love and know
wledge that you are worth it....not everyone will hurt you in the way you have been hurt.
I am not sure I share that view. It saddens me to know how deeply hurt you have been that you have closed yourself off.
you can heal from the pain of it...I know it has been 6 years but it seems like just now you are letting yourself feel it all and that is why you feel like you are in that tunnel. but it can ease up...with good support and care for yourself.
yes it can seem that way but I promise you that not everyone is like this.
I think what is important here is that you feel all these things and need some extra support to work through it. would you be willing to see a counselor?
Where in the UK are you located?
I dont want you to self destruct.
I am going to look for you right now. give me a few moments, ok? I am still here in the chat with you while I look.
and one more.
I would start by placing a call to them to get a sense of how they feel to you over the phone and then set an appointment or two so you can see where you feel most comfortable.
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nothing to be ashamed of at all...you did great by coming here.
you have done well by your children and now it is your time...nothing to be ashamed of about that.
getting some support along the way will be helpful.
you can come back to me anytime you need as well.
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